Are you ready for love, this fine Sunday afternoon?  I’ve been having some very interesting discussions with several of my singles clients this past week or so.  Dating to find a life partner is actually only one, very important skill in creating the life and relationship of your dreams.  Because the dating process is so important, and, often overlooked, as a relationship coach, my role is to be ’right there’ with these women, helping them think and become more aware of some of the things they aren’t thinking about, because their emotions are focused on a slightly different part of the process.  

Together, if we build a strong working relationship - we can help her ’get it right’ because we create this ’balancing of head and heart’ throughout the process of dating, mating and coupling that is required to find, grow and sustain a deeply satisfying, lasting love with another woman.

For example… one of my clients is finally, after my encouragement, focusing in on her online dating search.  Mind you this is, btw, a client who is entering Singles II, or Lesbian Dating A-Z: Attracting the woman of your dreams tele-group, the second of two programs we recommend clients complete before dating or while dating to meet a life partner.  This client has completed our Singles I program – called -  Becoming Irresistibly Single: Get ready for the relationship of your dreams tele-class. 

Currently, she is honing in on one quality online dating site and is sending out lots of emails almost everyday to women she feels any sort of connection with or attraction to when viewing their profiles.  Earlier on in her search of online sites, I had to do alot of convincing her that she needed to ‘cast a wider net’ and write to alot of women.  Why?  Because then she increases the chance someone will connect with/and or feel an initial attraction to her and respond.

Your job is not taking any of it personally and, to keep moving towards your vision for the relationship you desire

My client, like many of us, tends to feel easily discouraged when women don’t respond.  Now, I am working with her to help her overcome this, but, the feelings you naturally experience, when it’s YOUR love life and YOUR relationship are very sensitive and, often the experience is so overwhelming we overlook rationality almost entirely, and unfortunately, to our detriment!  So, when we send out 10 emails to women we find interesting and not one responds, your job is not taking any of it personally and, to keep moving towards your vision for the relationship you desire.  Like I tell my client – you have no idea why someone isn’t responding.  It could even be a case of an old profile, as online dating sites aren’t perfect at cleaning out old ads, I’ve heard.

This same client told me yesterday – while preparing for a date with someone she had met and connected with on this same online dating site – that she dreaded dating.  Now, what a ‘rich’ area for discussion and coaching this is, is it not?  What’s behind ‘dread’?  Usually, some form of fear.  What usually happens when we approach something with dread?  We either avoid it or, we attempt to rush through it, to ‘get it over with’!  Definitely not what you need to do if you are seeking a deeply satisfying, lasting relationship with another woman.

Dating skills are one of the 10 vitally important ‘readiness’ areas I talk about in my very powerful Relationship Readiness Quiz.  So,

• If you’re single and dreading the ‘get out and meet’ other women thing
• If you’re dating and you want to be successful at finding the lady of your dreams
• If you are coupled and you’re wondering if your relationship could be happier

I would encourage you to sign up for a 60 minute tele-discussion I’m having tomorrow evening, at 7p ET entitled

Are You Ready for Love?  Four Tips for Putting the Relationship Readiness Quiz to Work for You! 

During this inspiring hour,  I have some amazing information to share with you about love and relationships, whether you are currently single, dating or in a relationship.

• Being single is not necessarily enough to be ready to date and find the love of your life?
• Being part of a couple or even being in a committed relationship isn’t enough to ensure your relationship will survive the inevitable challenges the two of you WILL face over time?
• Happy singles and couples are healthier (physically, financially, emotionally, sexually, etc.)?
• We know what separates the couples who make it from the couples who don’t?
• Most lesbians lack the social support they need to create thriving love lives, whether they are single, dating or coupled?
• You can do something about all of these challenges?  Even though today’s life and today’s relationships are more complex, we have the opportunity to make our love lives better than ever! 

• practical information on putting the concept of readiness to work for you, whether you are single, dating or coupled
• a streaming and mp3 copy of the call

What have you got to lose?  I’ll see you tomorrow night on the call!  If you have any questions, be sure to email me today or tomorrow.

Barb Elgin

Tags: lesbian relationships

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