Wow! This is a story that continues to intrigue. Chely Wright, country singer, has announced she’s gay. So, what’s so remarkable about this coming out story?
As Chely just spoke of on the Today Show, there is still a risk in the country music world, and among it’s fans, of being ostracized. After all, she said, country music has always been associated with god, America and family.
I haven’t read Chely’s new book yet, Like Me: Confessions of a Heartland Country Singer, but it certainly seems a must read.
On Facebook this morning, my bud Kathy Belge over at About.com shared the heart breaking, powerful, and oh-so-real life story of Jonny from Oregon. I decided to share his video with you today, because of his very powerful, sobering message.
If you are straight and, especially if you aren’t a strong advocate FOR marriage equality, or even if you don’t believe yourself in gay marriage, really imagine what it would be like to be ‘ignored’ or be so invisibly regarded in your time of greatest grief and loss.
Sadly, Jonny’s partner of seven years was murdered. This video, produced by Basic Rights Oregon, details what it has been like for Jonny to go through the real, tangible problems that survivors go through when a couple lacks legal ties in addition to the grief of losing that relationship.
Jonny shares that, as a result of his experience, it’s ever more clear to him that domestic partnership is NOT the same as marriage in terms of rights, respect and recognition, not only from governmental institutions but down to the EMT’s that may care for you in the ambulance when you are rushed to the hospital.
Using words like ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ make all the difference. Indeed, I can understand why gay couples who aren’t legally married use these terms…
Be sure to send Jonny your thoughts…
Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW, Certified Singles Coach, is Coach Sappho: America’s Favorite Lesbian Love Coach and Matchmaker. Be sure to stop by www.coachsappho.com today, take our FREE love quiz and find out how we can help your relationship thrive!
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“Oh, honey, you’re 46 – you have a greater chance of being slaughtered by a psychopath than finding love.” - Diane Keaton’s mother in The First Wives Club
Okay, so I’m stuck inside, the weather’s gorgeous and I’d rather be at the pool playing water volleyball right now (instead I had to settle for being Suzy Homemaker – vacuuming and cleaning the kitchen! Ha! Burns calories just as well).
I’m on a writing moratorium today. I’m already committed to getting caught up on my articles for One Good Love’s popular E-zine for relationship-minded gays and lesbians.
I’ve got my doggie lying behind me snoring. Believe it or not, she’s found a new way to cuddle up to me while I work, She squeezes her – luckily – small body – behind me on the office chair! Cute, or what? If only I could find a woman so loyal and into snuggling!
Bill Daley of The Chicago Tribune reports a celebrity gay couple has spoken out publicly in response to recent homophobic comments made at a college talk by 2008 presidential candidate Mike Huckabee.
During the talk, Huckabee said he believes gays shouldn’t be allowed to adopt. He dissed gays as parents by complaining that when it comes to parenting children, ‘we aren’t dealing with puppies’.
Well now, there is much I can say about that comment, but, suffice it to say (more…)
When it comes to love relationships, we all seem to instinctively know that one of the keys to keeping love alive is continuing to keep it fun and playing well together. Easy to do when things are going well, right?
However, what about when things aren’t going so swimmingly? This is truly where we separate the men from the boys, or, the happy versus unhappy couples. You see, it seems how we handle the difficult moments in our relationship – when we are feeling not-so-playful or positive, such as when we are frustrated, angry or feel some type of negativity towards our partner or our relationship – determines whether we (and our partner) will continue to feel positive about our relationship and emotionally invest in it…or not!
John Gottman coined this very useful idea, this visual of ‘kicking around the soccer ball’, after observing thousands of gay and straight couples in his notorious love lab. Gottman discovered there is a big difference between…
the couples who have ‘mastered’ handling conflict and
those couples whose behavior, when it comes to negatively-charged situations, incites an escalation of the conflict, withdrawal in one or both partners, etc.
I’m pleased to announce that Donna and I will be interviewing Lara Zielinsky, bisexual author of mature adult content lesbian and bi-women’s fiction, romance and erotica Thursday, April 29, 2010 from 7-8p ET on Coach Sappho’s Podcast.
Lara resides in the Orlando, Florida area. Who knew we had such an interesting and accomplished author right in our midst!?!
Lara has been on a speaking tour promoting her new book
Wow! The topic of infidelity has been in the news quite a lot recently. It was a big week in the sports world again, not due to the new major league baseball season, but because Tiger Woods spoke to a throng of reporters (and millions on TV) during pre-tournament events at the Master’s Golf Tournament in Georgia.
The gist of Tiger’s talk was apology after apology, much like the consequences many who cheat eventually face.
Recently, during The Larry King Show on CNN, Dr. Drew Pinsky, one of my favorite celebrity shrinks, and other experts, along with women who have been victimized by infidelity, weighed in on the subject.
Today, in recognition of current holidays such as Passover and Easter, Donna Tara Lee and I covered the topic of dealing with anti-gay relatives during the holidays.
We agree today’s show was one of our best (so far)! Please feel free to listen and forward the link to anyone you wish.
We talked about the varieties of disapproval GLBT’s face, why people become anti-gay (it’s not them it’s their beliefs) and we talked a great deal about how to address this issue if it presents itself in your life.
We also touched on the serious issue of suicide and the holidays. I offered a great resource called the Suicide Prevention Hot Line at 1-800-723-TALK.
Wow! This is a story that continues to intrigue. Chely Wright, country singer, has announced she’s gay. So, what’s so remarkable about this coming out story?
Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW, Certified Singles Coach, is a lesbian dating and relationship expert and matchmaker.
