Deeply satisfying, lasting love comes from CELEBRATING who we are…(Part 2 of 2)
Saturday, February 21st, 2009Yesterday, I shared with you Part 1 of this 2 part post on ‘The connection between celebrating your sexuality and deeply satisfying, lasting love’. Today, in Part 2, I continue to describe the ‘celebrating who you are’ continuum and adopting a celebratory attitude about yourself and your life.
TOLERANCE OF ONE’S LESBIANISM
Tolerance is a stage most gays and lesbians also go through. When you tolerate something you are acknowledging it (versus denying it). However, all of us know the feeling of ‘tolerating’ something. It’s not usually fun, and the attitude is akin to ‘grinning and bearing something’ or ‘putting up with someone or something unpleasant’.
Kind of like the friends and/or family members who choose, after many years of knowing the ‘truth’ about us, to continue to say they aren’t happy with our ‘chosen lifestyle’. People who tolerate us may let us bring our partners to family events and, they may even become fond of our partners.
However, it is less likely they will openly acknowledge our partners fully as our ’spouses’ and they most likely do not view our love relationships as equal to theirs. (more…)
Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW, Certified Singles Coach, is a lesbian dating and relationship expert and matchmaker.
