Lez Be Together

We’ve been talking about it’s birth during meetings of Coach Sappho’s Couples Circle for months now and, I’ve finally gotten it together enough to put it out there.

Lez Be Together is free, all the way, and it’s for anyone who values deeply satisfying, lasting love relationships.  Lez Be Together also supports couples who recognize how improving one’s relationship with one’s romantic partner usually contains gems for helping us improve other important relationships in our lives, including parent-child relationships, sibling relationships, family relationships, work relationships, etc.

Lez Be Together has a boatload of online opportunities for you to celebrate your relationship, strike up discussions that enthrall you on the subject, connect with other like-minded couples who also want to create a great relationship and much, much more!

Simply said, I can’t wait for you to check it out.

Just click here to learn more.  Enjoy…

What a great time, btw, for someone to enlist support!  I remember back to my therapy training days when we learned that crises may seem overwhelming but they are also a time when we are more open to change.  That’s right – the Chinese were right – crisis =’s opportunity!  And making some internal changes (as well as some changes in her actions) will be required of this client if she expects to ever stop ‘leasing’ U-Hauls!!! 

Being Single Doesn’t Mean You Are Ready To Meet Your Soul Mate

The first thing I suggested this client do, however, is understand that being single is not synonymous with being ‘ready’ to find a life partner.  How many newly single folks do you know who rush out into the dating pool right away???  Usually that leads to disaster or ‘more-of-the-same’ you’re trying to avoid.  Many people believe that availability equals readiness and that’s just not true.  In fact, most of us have never encountered the concept of readiness and it’s importance in our lives.

So, I suggested to this client that she put any thoughts of dating on hold for the next couple of months while we explore the concept of readiness and how it applies to her.  A great place for anyone to start when one is single and seeking their life partner, whether or not one is already dating, is assessing one’s readiness for love. 

What is Readiness and Why is it So Important

Readiness is about having your ‘house in order’ as much as you can prior to considering ‘combining’ or ‘joining’ your life with another person.  Another way of saying it is that readiness is about having an awareness of who you are and what you want so that you can identify it when you are experiencing it with another person.  Readiness is also about being strong enough to ‘stay the course’ until one gets what one requires, needs and wants in a relationship before making a life commitment to that relationship.  Now, you tell me – are you truly ready for the relationship you say you want???

There are at least 10 Love Readiness areas, such as…

Breaking readiness down into these 10 categories makes it easy to define ‘how ready you are’ in each critical life area.  No, there is no such thing as ‘perfect readiness’ so you don’t have to worry about that, but, what most of us find is that we can improve our readiness.  What’s the benefit of doing this internal, what I call ‘heart work’?  The benefit is that regardless of whether you find a partner you will be a happier person.  Also – people who are ready for love tend to attract more potential life partners and, when they do, know how to date to figure out if a particular partner is for them.

So if you are single, take heart.  Did you know there are now more single people in America than married people?  It’s true.  So the pool is large!  Add to that the fact that more lesbians are living open and honest lives and that there are more interesting and exciting places for lesbians to meet than ever before and I think I can get you to agree with me when I say you may not feel like it yet but, truly, you have the world in the palm of your hand!  Don’t settle for anything less…

If you’d like to learn more about this readiness thing, I’d recommend you take Coach Sappho’s Readiness Quiz.  It’s free, short and sweet and oh so helpful!  OR, if you can’t stand taking quizzes, how about coming to the next, LIVE, Coach Sappho’s ‘Be Ready for Love’ Podcast?

I can’t wait to meet you!

Barb Elgin

“One of the important principles I live by is the idea that you have to contemplate yourself as surrounded by the conditions you intend to produce. The difference between highly functioning people – the people Maslow called self-actualizers – and people who live with ordinary levels of consciousness is that the self-actualizers never put their intention on what they don’t want. They know that what you think about is what expands.”
- Dr. Wayne Dyer

So, here we are – you and I, coming together today.  Now, technically, we aren’t sitting down in front of each other, or, even speaking live and listening to one another’s voice or even instant messaging.  But, that is not what matters.  What matters, I  know deep in my heart, is that what we are doing here is forming a powerful, positive, connection between us for your greater good.

There is beautiful music that you and I can make together that you can’t create anywhere else.  Our relationship offers you something special that will inspire you to live the life your heart (instead of your ego) desires, because it is my intention to help you connect with the part of you that can give you what you need to create such a life.

My work, my legacy, my passion…is about offering you places…spaces…and faces, that support you for becoming your most magnificent self.  Period.  And, that is why I want to get to know you and why you’ll want to get to know, and hang around with, me.

HINT: This site is a blog.  That means it is a place where we can talk.  I will post lots of entries, sometimes daily.  The point of the posts is simply to create an ongoing dialogue of health, wellness, prosperity and fun.  A dialogue that creates an intimacy that…

• helps us build bridges by identifying the life-affirming and respectful values all of us can agree upon, in spite of our differences
• inspires us to enjoy discussions that help us live, love and work smarter
• reminds us to partake of discussions that follow abundant mottos such as, “givers gain” and “in our diversity lies our strength”

One of the most powerful ways I know to create what I want is by planting myself in the fertile soil of people, ideas and activities that help me be who I most want to be and do what I most want to accomplish.  That is what I sincerely hope this blog will help you do.  All you need to do is water the soil and spread some sunshine by showing up and participating.  Then, watch the quality of your life grow, like a beautiful flower.

So, please get involved by commenting on my posts.  You can do this whenever you want on any post by clicking on the ‘comments’ link at the bottom of each post),  What’s cool about this is that by publicly commenting, others will see your posts and be encouraged to offer wisdom or information that can help you and even the rest of our readers.

Or, if you’d like to keep it private, between you and I, call or email me.  Either way is fine.

So, please, feel free to click on the ‘comments’ link below and post or tell me by emailing me what you want to read and hear about.  I’m all ears (and eyes)!!!

Don’t be shy, send me a line and let me know what you need, I want to help you get it.

Barb Elgin