Wow! As I write you and reflect on this week, front and center is the fact that New Jersey’s high court has ruled that the legislature has to equalize things somehow for gay and lesbian couples in their state. There wasn’t enough support on the court to pass a ‘gay marriage’ ruling and they are leaving it up to the legislature to decide. The coming months in New Jersey should be interesting…
I also received an email yesterday from my friend Dan Furmansky, executive director of Equality Maryland, who reports that they’ve got a case very similar to New Jerseys, that will be heard by Maryland’s highest court, in December! So, stay tuned.
Eventhough the righteous right blows alot of hot air and, there remains, in most places in the US, discrimination against gays in terms of their relationships and jobs, things are continuing to improve. We’ve got a long way to go so, do what you can, every day, to move equality forward! And that doesn’t mean you have to get active politically, you can do it right in your own backyard by being more authentic with your family, friends and, if you judge it safe, co-workers.
Even if you aren’t willing to ‘be out’, for example, at work, (because you work in a state that doesn’t protect gays from being fired and your company doesn’t have gay-positive policies), you can still advance equality by speaking up if someone is expressing bigotry on the subject. You can speak up and/or defend someone else who you know is out and gay in your company. You can educate others about sexual orientation when you hear misinformation being spread.
And, ‘push the envelope’ with those in your family who are the most ‘neutral’ about supporting you to be who you are. Or, if someone in your family is, lucky you, very supportive, take some time to thank them and, maybe ask them what the two of you can do to make it more ‘hospitable’ for you to be more yourself with your family.
Believe me – it’s worth it to your own self esteem and physical health. The results are amazing – those who courageously speak up not only help themselves, they help the world become a more loving, better place for everyone. Really!
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Sign up for individual or couples coaching between now and 12/31/06 with Barb Elgin and Barb will donate 10% of your fee to the Juno Foundation, a non-profit helping lesbians with Cancer.
That’s right! As this is still Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I want to do something to help. This past year, I started building a relationship with the ladies over at the Juno Foundation, a non-profit based in Orlando, Florida, whose focus is supporting lesbians with cancer.
Every February Juno holds a wonderful dinner and auction event at a nice hotel in Orlando. This annual dinner is their major fundraiser for the year. I attended my first one this past winter and had a great time. I was honored to donate coaching scholarships for the silent auction. I hear that attendance has been growing each year and it’s becoming quite the ‘dress up’ event for lesbians in Orlando/Central Florida!
During the event, attendees got to meet one of Juno’s beneficiaries, an African American woman whose cancer put her in a wheel chair but didn’t deter her from coming to tell us about how Juno was helping her and her partner. I don’t think there was a dry eye in the place.
This summer, I held a charity raffle at St. Pete Pride and named Juno as my chosen charity. Juno provided me with some wonderful, informative brochures to pass out during the event and I believe many had their consciousness raised as to the prevalence of breast cancer in the lesbian community, and what to do about it.
So, it’s a natural that I would continue to support Juno’s work. If you’ve been ‘sitting on the fence’ about signing up for coaching, perhaps 10% of your fee towards this worthy charity will get you off the fence!
Just be sure to mention you want 10% of your fee to go to Juno when you sign up for coaching!
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Coach Sappho? coming to a town near you in 2007?
Over here at Coach Sappho? we are continuing to prepare for 2007. And, we need your help doing so. I plan to bring ‘conscious dating and mating’ for gay and lesbian singles and couples to a town near you in 2007. I will go where the interest is, so, let me know if you’d like me to come and speak or do a seminar.
In fact, one of the events I am ready to roll out right now is a two day singles workshop on attracting your soulmate! Sound juicy? Let me know what you think.
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FREE Relationship Resources from Coach Sappho?:
Barb Elgin’s article series – For Women-Who-Love-Women: 10 Secrets to Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams by the Holidays - at many gay and lesbian web sites!
Don’t know if you noticed, but several gay and lesbian web sites have picked up my five part series, “For Women-Who-Love-Women: 10 Secrets to Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams by the Holidays”. Right now you can catch Part Two at Lesbian Nation!
Coach Sappho Releases New, Five Part E-Course: How to Find Your Life Partner and Her ‘Creating A Life I Love’ private website to the public
This past week I’ve made available to everyone two new, complimentary relationship and relationship-related resources, so, be sure to grab them while they’re hot:
- my intriguing, five part e-course ‘How to Find Your Life Partner’
- Coach Sappho’s Creating a Life I Love Club member site (which was previously for members only).
The e-course comes to your email box five consecutive days and the website is available anytime, using the password you will receive. The Creating a Life I Love Club site is chock full of personal, relationship, career, financial, etc., life improvement resources.
Click here to sign up for ‘How to Find Your Life Partner’ now.
Click here to receive the link and password to Coach Sappho’s ‘Creating a Life I Love’ Club website now.
Catch Coach Sappho on Internet Radio Live!
And, don’t forget to listen in at the Lesbian Lounge at ‘Gay Internet Radio Live’ next Wednesday night (November 1, 2006), where I’ll be dishing some delectable advice during the ‘Just Say No to Lesbian Bed Death’ portion of the show. I come on between 9:30-10p ET, but be sure to tune in at 9 to catch all of the fun. The two show hosts, Donna and Denise, are a hoot!
Have a wonderful weekend!
Barb Elgin
Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW, Certified Singles Coach, is a lesbian dating and relationship expert and matchmaker.
