Lez Be Together

We’ve been talking about it’s birth during meetings of Coach Sappho’s Couples Circle for months now and, I’ve finally gotten it together enough to put it out there.

Lez Be Together is free, all the way, and it’s for anyone who values deeply satisfying, lasting love relationships.  Lez Be Together also supports couples who recognize how improving one’s relationship with one’s romantic partner usually contains gems for helping us improve other important relationships in our lives, including parent-child relationships, sibling relationships, family relationships, work relationships, etc.

Lez Be Together has a boatload of online opportunities for you to celebrate your relationship, strike up discussions that enthrall you on the subject, connect with other like-minded couples who also want to create a great relationship and much, much more!

Simply said, I can’t wait for you to check it out.

Just click here to learn more.  Enjoy…

You ARE my Valentine!  That’s right – whether you are single or coupled you are SO attractive and loving, in my eyes and heart.  You are a special person with a special purpose and there will never be another like you.

So get out there and love yourself today.  Be your own valentine.

And, keep on playin’ here at Coach Sappho!  There’s so much to celebrate now and in our futures!

Barb Elgin
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LESBIANS OVER 35 LOOKING TO RE-DEFINE ROMANCE AND RELATIONSHIPS
Lesbians over the age of 35 now have an exciting new way to meet that special someone.

Summerfield, FL – February 10th, 2009 – As lesbians move away from early adulthood and become more mature, many re-assess their approach to meeting that special someone.

“With so many dating and social networks now targeting younger lesbians, I saw the lack of expert, focused support for lesbians who are seeking a life partner and decided to create something unique and appealing to the more experienced, mature lesbian woman,” said Barb Elgin, a Certified Singles, Dating and Relationship Coach with over 20 years of experience and the founder of Lez Rendezvous. “Lesbians over the age of 35 now have both access to a group of established women like themselves and the tools they’ll need to attract, grow and sustain a deeply satisfying, lasting relationship with another woman.”

Lez Rendezvous was created by Elgin, a 35+ lesbian herself, with the idea that lesbians over 35 have unique challenges meeting women of their caliber and age. Lesbians 35 and over are wise enough now to know they must not only be more selective in discovering who is a great partner for them but they must also learn to be a great partner.

Reports Elgin,“Finally, the mature lesbian has a healthy, supportive meeting place for maximizing her potential on what I call the ‘journey of love’. While our ultimate goal is helping each lesbian attract a compatible woman they can grow a vibrant, lasting bond with in this lifetime, Lez Rendezvous is also about helping lesbians become happily single, which is, by the way, key to attracting a great partner. And, lastly, Lez Rendezvous endeavors to  support lesbians in forming healthy, vibrant friendships with other lesbians that last a lifetime. Strong, supportive friendships help couples succeed.” Members have full access to cutting-edge coaching, a private web site full of resources for the 35+ lesbian woman, and workshops on dating and relationships.

Lez Rendezvous announces its launch by offering a Free 15 minute one-on-one laser coaching session twice a month (a $50 value), Free Singles Classes (90 minutes per month, a $150 value) and a Free Singles Mingle event once a month for each new member.

“35+ lesbians will now truly have a place to go where they can be assured they’re meeting like-minded, same-aged women,” says Elgin. “Lez Rendezvous is “the” 35 and over lesbian dating and relationship resource.”

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About Lez Rendezvous – Lez Rendezvous is a place where mature lesbians can go for personal guidance in re-defining romance and relationships in their lives. Lez Rendezvous caters to the more mature, sophisticated lesbian woman who is seeking the same. Unlike other lesbian dating sites or social networking groups, Lez Rendezvous is membership based and services a specific lesbian age group and mindset. For more information, visit www.lezrendezvous.com.

About Barb Elgin – Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW (AKA ‘Coach Sappho’), is a Certified Singles and Dating and Relationship Coach, with over 20 years of professional experience in addition to being a mature, 35+ lesbian. She has received specialized training in relationship coaching with the Relationship Coaching Institute, as well as personal, corporate and business coach training with Coachville.

Ms. Elgin currently serves on the Board of the Maryland Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. In addition, she holds memberships with…

* The National Association of Social Workers
* The Executive Circle of the Women’s Business Initiative, The National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce
* The Founder’s Circle, Echelon Magazine
* The Human Rights Campaign

For more information, visit http://www.coachsappho.com/about/bio.php .

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My first recollection of personal ads was in the late 1980′s or early 1990′s.  I remember seeing them in local papers and magazines.  The cost for some was prohibitive and, often, one had to wait a month for their ad to come out.   I also remember them being seen by many as ‘racy’ or taboo. 

Today, given the opening up of attitudes, most of us have heard about personal ads (or even posted one!).  With the internet, and the growth of 100′s of online dating companies and social networking sites such as MySpace, the single person’s options for posting a personal ad that is able to be accessed by many potential singles is often inexpensive and easy. 

In addition, the internet is so ‘immediate’ you don’t have to wait a week or month for a paper or magazine to come out!  And, given that the internet is geographically ‘unlimited’, it appears, at least on the surface, that your reach is unlimited.

But beware the hype.  Dating sites may promise large numbers of potential people or compatible matches (after taking their testing instruments) to meet, but when you actually go on their site and search, you may see the same old faces and names you’ve already ruled out.  You may also find many haven’t been on the site to search for months.  That’s not good, many of those singles may no longer even be single! 

And, photos on these sites tend to be nonexistent or, frankly, poor.  Why give off a negative first impression!?!  If you are going to bother spending your valuable time seriously seeking a soulmate at these sites, spend the time, effort and money, if needed, to post the most flattering pictures you can.

I advise my clients to have fun trying out the online dating sites but to be careful and not spend their money unless they have some success with a site.  Success depends on how you define it.  I also encourage clients to remember the old ‘tried and true’ – local online and traditional personal ad services and opportunities.

Okay, so, if you’re thinking about putting a personal ad out there, I say congratulations and yahoo!  That means you are healing (if you’re getting over a breakup) or, you are getting more active about creating the life and/or relationship you truly desire.

I welcome this when it happens for my clients, because many of them have already made the decision they need to ‘slow down’ (which is mostly a good thing) and learn more about themselves THIS time around before getting involved with another person romantically, in the hopes they will choose more wisely who they give their heart to THIS TIME.

The next question I think you need to answer for yourself is this: 

Should I write a great personal ad? 

Stay tuned for future blog issues where I will discuss further, issues such as…

• how to know if your dating plan needs to include personal ads
• how to write a great personal ad if you decide to do so
• the keys to using personal ads to find dates
• other options for finding dates

Have a great start of the week!

Barb Elgin

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If you are single and your vision includes forming a long term, deeply satisfying, committed relationship with another person, you will want to check out Coach Sappho?, a unique, ‘members only’ community for singles and couples who are ‘like-minded’ about creating authentic lives and relationships. 

Coach Sappho? offers a number of convenient, fun, wisdom-packed events and opportunities for singles and couples who are open to collaborating with an experienced coach who can help them clarify a powerful vision for where they want their life to go and a plan to help them succeed.   If you’d like to learn more, click here.

Or, if you would like to talk with me ‘one-on-one’, I offer an initial, complimentary, no obligation coaching meeting, where I invite you to begin building a relationship with me that will help you change your life in wondrous ways.  Just email me and we’ll set up a time that is convenient for us to talk.   In addition to the meeting, I also cover the cost of the phone call!

I’m sitting here writing to you as the sun sets in the Florida sky.  Much, as usual, is happening here at Coach Sappho and in the world.  I am always grateful for what is ‘going well’, especially when it relates to quality of life! 

Speaking of which, a special thanks goes to Congress and the President (believe it or not!) who passed The Pension Protection Act this week, providing sorely needed financial protections to same sex couples.  Be sure to stop by The Human Rights Campaign website to read all about it.  And, while you’re there, be sure to check out their new guide for ‘living openly in your place of worship’ – I hear it’s a nice guide.

My week started out on a very positive note as I connected with the new social network here in Ocala, Florida, LGBT Ocala.  They’ve got a fall gala coming up 9/3, so, if you are in the area, be sure to go to their website and learn more about the event and the network in general. 

LGBT Ocala is a diverse and friendly bunch and their goal is to make Ocala a better place for the GLBT community.  They seem to be off to a strong start and their website looks great.  I look forward to making future meetings, and continuing to re-connect with old friends and making new ones.  For those of you reading this who live in major metropolitan areas, please support your friends in less populated areas, like Ocala.  Given that I’m from Baltimore, it is an ‘education’ process for me, learning a different culture.  I think that in many ways Ocala is at least 20 years behind where Baltimore is today, in terms of gay rights and gay community.

On Wednesday I  attended the August Equality Florida Meetup at MCC Ocala.   Those in attendance (a small but passionate crowd) cooked up some cool ideas.  Look for Rob Poth, coordinator of Equality Florida Marion and Citrus County to announce some exciting events in the near future.  Hint:  one is elections/political in nature and the other event is for the broader Ocala community.  Hey – if you want to know more, you’ll just have to be sure to come to the next Meetup in September!

If you aren’t in the Ocala area but you’re interested in knowing what’s going on, let me know.

National Happenings

I’ll be heading to the eastern shore of Maryland next weekend for Chesapeake Pride!  Unless I go to Orlando Pride in October, this will be my last pride festival in 2006.  Just a hop and a skip from Baltimore, Washington, D.C. and most of the eastern shore, Chesapeake Pride will be held near Annapolis, the state capital. 

I’m looking forward to having my booth there, so, if you are in the vicinity, be sure to come on by and say ‘hi’ to Rachael and I and support the efforts of organizer Wayne Schwandt and company!  They’ve got a great event planned, complete with vendors, food, and live music.  To learn more about Chesapeake Pride, click here.

Sponsors of  Chesapeake Pride include Southwest Airlines, Baltimore Gay Life Newspaper, and the area MCC Church.  Vendors include yours truly (I love it, they call me ‘Sister Sappho’!), the ACLU, the Baltimore Gay Community Center, PFLAG and about 30 others.  Also invited is Baltimore Mayor Martin O’Malley, who is running for governor.

SPECIAL CHESAPEAKE PRIDE OFFER!:

In honor of gay pride, anyone who stops by my booth at Chesapeake Pride and registers for Coach Sappho’s 10 week ‘Relationship Readiness’ Class starting in early October, will get $200 off the price of the seminar PLUS a complimentary copy of ‘Conscious Dating:  How to find the love of your life in today’s world’ ($25 value), autographed by yours truly!

For those of you who are interested in the seminar but who won’t be able to attend Chesapeake Pride, just email me on August 26th and I’ll send you the special, 66% off link for the seminar.  If you register within 48 hours, I will honor that rate!

My current ‘labors of love’ include inspiring…

• Married, partnered, separated, divorced, single, dating or engaged individuals who value deeply satisfying, long term life partnerships.
• Gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered entrepreneurs (and allies) who are starting or growing creative or cause-based businesses serving the GLBT community.  Click here to learn more about my ideal clients.
• Online dating and relationship services companies struggling to take their business, or that part of their business, which focuses primarily on serving lesbian and bisexual women, to the next level.
• GLBT’s and GLBT allies who are truly ready to live a more authentic life

If you see yourself in one or more of the scenarios above, I truly believe that we are meant to meet and create something beautiful together that will deeply increase your satisfaction with life!  I look forward to hearing from you! 

Authentically yours! – Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW-C

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