Today, in recognition of current holidays such as Passover and Easter, Donna Tara Lee and I covered the topic of dealing with anti-gay relatives during the holidays.

We agree today’s show was one of our best (so far)!  Please feel free to listen and forward the link to anyone you wish.

We talked about the varieties of disapproval GLBT’s face, why people become anti-gay (it’s not them it’s their beliefs) and we talked a great deal about how to address this issue if it presents itself in your life.

We also touched on the serious issue of suicide and the holidays.  I offered a great resource called the Suicide Prevention Hot Line at 1-800-723-TALK.

Click here to listen now.

Well, I’ll tell you, I’ve been so busy over here…

• getting caught up after my cruise (yes, more info – and pics – coming)
• healing from a cold
• putting the word out on Coach Sappho’s Get Ready to Meet YOUR Mz. Right in 2010 Tele-Seminar, which starts this Saturday, November 28, 2009,
• finishing many other things, too numerous to mention

that I haven’t had the time or energy, unfortunately, to post here at the blog.

Also – if you missed our latest podcast

GLBT Talk with Barb and Donna

We had a great show the other night and you can pick up your free recording here.  Donna and I had an intriguing discussion on several juicy topics so be sure to catch it.  We have only one more show in 2009, on December 8th and you don’t want to miss the LIVE version, because we’ll be talking about Holiday Stress, GLBT Style and we’ll be taking call ins.

In the meantime, Happy, Happy Thanksgiving to you.  If you are still looking for something to do today, do something for yourself that gives thanks to you for who YOU are!  Seriously…(and be sure to email me and tell me about it!)

Peace and here’s hoping you enjoy a full (but not too full) belly today!

Barb Elgin

“Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind.” – Unknown

I received the above quote in the ezine of a colleague of mine earlier today.  It got me to thinking about the coming holidays and the new year and it got me curious about you and your life.  I am a deep believer in the benefit of reflection and visioning and it’s positive impact on one’s life.

So, I’ll ask…

“Do you think it would help you to slow down for a few hours this December, reflect upon wisdom gained in 2007 and use what you learn, along with what your heart longs for today, to begin planning for a great 2008?”

Now, you don’t have to do so alone.  I’ve decided to offer my

Gearing Up for Greater Abundance in 2008 Tele-seminar

again this year.  Last year, I had quite a bit of interest in the program so I thought I’d run it again!  This program is for everyone and it is not solely relationship-focused like most of my programs (meaning: you have a choice if you want to focus on relationships or some other area(s) of your life)!

Gearing Up for Greater Abundance in 2008 Tele-seminar

is a three session program that will help you ‘prime’ yourself for an amazing 2008.  During

Gearing Up for Greater Abundance in 2008′s Tele-seminar you will…

• reflect upon your learnings, disappointments and new awarenesses from 2007
• dream big for 2008 and ‘bring your dreams out of hiding’ using some of my favorite ‘visioning’ exercises
• identify and clear out the limiting beliefs that have been stopping you from realizing your vision
• create your unique plan for manifestation in 2008

In addition to these objectives, you will have the benefit of being part of an amazing group of ‘like-minded’ individuals also tuning into themselves and their heart’s desires.  I can tell you from past experience leading these groups and being a participant of them, that the new relationships, ideas, suggestions and support that grow out of participation in one of these tele-seminars is often priceless as far as the value it adds to one’s life!

I’m going to lead this program on Wednesday evenings – December 5th, 12th and 19th from 7:30p-9p ET ONLY and I am going to limit it to 5-10 participants to ensure lots of attention to participant’s needs so be sure to register today to ensure your spot in the class!

In addition, the program will be recorded and will be available to participants only (in case a participant can’t make a ‘live’ meeting and
for participants to refer back to during 2008 for support).

Click here to register now.

AND AS A BONUS:  I’ll be running a contest each night of the class where I’ll be choosing a class member’s name to receive a complimentary gift, Coach Sappho’s FIND YOUR SOUL MATE IN ’08′ HOLIDAY GIFT PACKAGE ($129.00 value)!!!  That’s right – this means I’ll be giving away three of these valuable packages.  In an intimate class of 5-10 people the odds are high you’ll win one!!!!

BE well,

As Americans celebrate Thanksgiving, I thought I’d share my ‘heart thoughts’ on the single most important thing you can do today to celebrate the holiday…

Thank yourself and be grateful for YOU!

That’s right!  Take some time today to thank yourself for all that you are and all that you do.  We live in a culture that tends to be so judgmental and/or ‘externally’ focused.  We live in a world that too often values how much we make, how big or modern a home we live in, how much we ‘go all out’ in celebrating, etc.

Now, externals aren’t all bad, mind you.  I too am of the belief that material abundance and inner abundance can go ‘hand-in-hand’.

I hope you’ll take a few minutes to realize all you do for others.  I hope you’ll reflect upon all that’s ‘right’ and ‘good’ about you.  And I hope you’ll think about all the wonderful characteristics that make up you.  Your core values, your strengths, your uniqueness and how you positively impact the world.

This is not a selfish, mediate on your navel suggestion.  Taking care of you (the golden goose) is vital to continuing to lay those golden eggs!  This is ESPECIALLY important if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered (or intersexed, for that matter), because society doesn’t fully yet ‘get’ our value to the whole and, instead, often tries to take away our joy.  Don’t let them! 

Just because some people still have ‘issues’, INSIDE OF THEM (not you) regarding gender and sex, that doesn’t mean YOU have to take on their problems or burdens.

So, don’t lose ‘you’ in the process of today’s events.  There are many ways to ‘lose you’ today.  However, I won’t even list them here, because words have power.  Instead I want you to envision the day you desire and then, go forth with your day.  Period! 

As you are challenged to stay WITH your vision of a perfect day, just remember the ‘voice of Coach Sappho’ inside your head and heart, gently encouraging you back on YOUR path…

Part of your perfect day vision probably includes remembering to do at least a couple of the daily routines you participate in that keep you well, such as exercise, meditation, prayer, making love (like how I put that right next to prayer!?!), even some good ‘ol portion control or, at a minimum, eating small portions of the most ‘fattening’ stuff, etc….

And let me know how doing all of this impacts the Thanksgiving you experience!  Post your thoughts and feelings about it all right here on the blog.

Lastly, if you are despairing today, take a moment and read the words Orlando realtor and colleague, Danny Veal, sent me in a Thanksgiving email card today.  What a positive ‘reframe’ indeed, so, thank you! Danny…

Thoughts for Thanksgiving

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge, because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary, because it means you’ve made a difference. It’s easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

Have a wonderful day!

Barb Elgin
Founder/CEO
Coach Sappho?
Inspiring healthy and fulfilling
lesbian dating and mating!