Many times when talking with my singles clients, I hear them voice a lack of faith in their ability to attract a deeply satisfying, lasting relationship.  After all it does take patience to find Mz. Right.  Finding Mz. Right takes time, effort, and a willingness to accept rejection.  Finding YOUR Mz. Right takes guts.

And, often when talking to couples going through a difficult time, I sense a loss of belief in their love. It happens, probably to most couples at some point.  I know that doesn’t make it any easier to bear.  And, you shouldn’t bear it alone, without support.

I’m here to remind you to ‘keep the faith’.  If you’re single, just know that with the right focus, you can find her.  And, if you’re in a relationship, problems can often be solved or, even if they can’t be solved, they can still be dealt with, and often, without destroying all that you share.

So, today, in the spirit of hope, I give you Shania Twain’s amazing video ‘From this Moment on’.   Just take a few minutes to soak in the message, feeling how it feels to be this connected to love…

I’m pleased to announce that Donna and I will be interviewing Lara Zielinsky, bisexual author of mature adult content lesbian and bi-women’s fiction, romance and erotica Thursday, April 29, 2010 from 7-8p ET on Coach Sappho’s Podcast.

Lara resides in the Orlando, Florida area.  Who knew we had such an interesting and accomplished author right in our midst!?!

Lara has been on a speaking tour promoting her new book

To Love and To Cherish: An Anthology of Lesbian Love and Marriage

And, she’s donating proceeds from sales of the book to the same sex marriage rights organization Marriage Equality USA.

Lara Zielinsky

Please be sure to join us Thursday, April 29th, 2010 at 7:00PM ET as we talk LIVE with Lara.  Coach Sappho’s Podcast is free to subscribers!

Whether you are single, dating or coupled, it’s time for YOU to begin the journey to experiencing more of what you want in your love life!   To help you continue your journey to a more amazing love life, I want to invite you to an exciting new tele-seminar I’m leading called

Coach Sappho’s ‘Secrets to Creating the Love Life You Deserve’ Tele-Discussion

You see, I’m sure you know success in anything requires more than reading a book, taking a quiz or, even chillin’ and having fun.  Success happens when we learn not only what works, but when we learn how to DO what works. Easier said than done, right?  All of this can seem pretty daunting, especially when it comes to love and relationships.

It’s been quite busy around here, necessitating my decision to change the time and day of Coach Sappho’s podcast.   I’ve moved Coach Sappho’s podcast to the first and third Thursdays of each month at 4p ET.  Please make note of it.  If you’re already a podcast subscriber, you’ll get a show reminder by Wednesday.

We hope you can join us during the live shows, but, if you can’t, be sure to pick up your free copy of Coach Sappho’s Podcast for listening when it’s right for you.  All podcast subscribers get free copies of all of our podcasts.

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I, and most lesbians, face the proverbial ‘catch 22′ when it comes to getting adequate, competent health care.  If we come ‘out’ to our providers we take the chance it may negatively affect the treatment we’re given and if we’re not ‘out’ to our providers it may negatively affect the treatment we receive.

However, after reading an excellent article by Bonnie Osborn in the September 2009 issue of Jane and Jane Magazine entitled, ‘Feeling the Pinch: Health care inequities result in financial penalties for lesbian couples’, I was reminded that health ‘care’ is only one problem lesbians face in our current health care system.

Did you know lesbian couples are also penalized economically by the way our current health care system is set up?  And that this penalizing is repeated and compounded?

For example, even though two of my sisters stay at home and don’t work, they have health care through their husband’s employers.  And, even though another sister works, her husband stays home and receives full ‘spouse’ benefits (including health care, life insurance, etc.).  And, I’m not even talking about all the children they have – eight between the three of them – who are covered on these various health care plans as well. (more…)

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the bottom line for lesbians…

What does it take to thrive in today’s world as a lesbian woman, single or coupled?

I define thrive as being able to be oneself enough in one’s life so that, if you are a lesbian, you celebrate your sexuality.  You don’t hide who you are.  And that authenticity extends to you and your life in general.

Thriving also means abilities to…

• handle adversity, that is, deal with and rise above all of life and love’s challenges, as you encounter them (and you will)…
• address dating and love relationship issues with skill and confidence (instead of avoidance, false bravado or destructive conflict)
• prevent future problems as best as you can by the way you live (and love) today
• actually become more authentic, loving and strong as a result of dealing with the challenges of being gay

If you are single, you have enough worth to take your time to get clear who you are and what you want, need and require in a love partnership and you only give your heart to another woman who also loves herself enough to be able to love another person, over time, with actions, and when it’s not just based on good feelings at that moment.

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I don’t know about you, but this November, I envision you and I meeting IN PERSON for perhaps the first time!  That’s right.  Coach Sappho is providing you with an amazing travel adventure where you can…

• travel in an ‘eco-friendly’ manner on a modern cruise ship with hundreds (perhaps thousands) of lesbian women
• talk with me, IN PERSON, about new and exciting ways to ‘liven up your lesbian love life’
• help out victims of Hurricane Katrina
• de-stress and spend some quality time, unplugged from everyday life, with yourself and/or your partner (I’m planning some really ‘cool’ meetings for singles only and couples only that you will want to attend I’m sure!)
• enjoy lots of great food, entertainment, etc.

Sounds awfully luscious and juicy to me, how about you?

Ever since I invited Shannon Wentworth, CEO and founder of the lesbian cruise company, Sweet, to Coach Sappho’s podcast last year, I knew Shannon had a grand vision.  You’ve probably noticed her and Sweet’s presence all over the internet and Sweet sponsors many lesbian events, such as the Dinah, just held a couple of weeks ago in Palm Springs, California, at the Riviera Hotel.

Well, what Shannon has been up to is encouraging lesbians far and near to take her caribbean cruise this coming November.  I hear the ship holds over 1900 so that’s a boatload of lesbians!  The cruise will last 7 days, ship out of New Orleans and traverse the western caribbean.

In addition to the usual amazing stuff you can do on a cruise, Shannon has many other innovative things happening on her cruise which you won’t find on most, including the opportunity for cruisers to ‘give back’ by doing some Katrina rebuilding in New Orleans before the cruise takes off and some great workshops, perhaps even by people like moi! 

If you are going to attend, be sure you let them know upon registration that Coach Sappho sent you!  And, if you are going to register (or if you already have), please email me and let me know.  If we have a party of at least 10 ladies on the ‘Coach Sappho’ contingent, I’ll definitely attend and, we will get some group goodies, courtesy of Shannon.

Anchors away, my love, anchors away…