If you undervalue what you do, the world undervalues who you are.  And when you undervalue who you are, the world undervalues what you do.

- Suze Orman, Women and Money

Amazingly wise words don’t you think?  And, they come from one smart, adorable lesbian who has truly ‘made it’ financially!  I am sitting here at the computer, writing to you on a rainy day, and treating myself to Orman on PBS as she presents her “Women and Money” Show.

Yes, the show isn’t new.  But, truthfully, each time the show comes on,  I half listen, with the TV in the background, continuing on with my busy day instead of stopping what I am doing and listening more closely.  Today, I listened (more…)

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the bottom line for lesbians…

What does it take to thrive in today’s world as a lesbian woman, single or coupled?

I define thrive as being able to be oneself enough in one’s life so that, if you are a lesbian, you celebrate your sexuality.  You don’t hide who you are.  And that authenticity extends to you and your life in general.

Thriving also means abilities to…

• handle adversity, that is, deal with and rise above all of life and love’s challenges, as you encounter them (and you will)…
• address dating and love relationship issues with skill and confidence (instead of avoidance, false bravado or destructive conflict)
• prevent future problems as best as you can by the way you live (and love) today
• actually become more authentic, loving and strong as a result of dealing with the challenges of being gay

If you are single, you have enough worth to take your time to get clear who you are and what you want, need and require in a love partnership and you only give your heart to another woman who also loves herself enough to be able to love another person, over time, with actions, and when it’s not just based on good feelings at that moment.

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In times of uncertainty we can bring back the integrity of our lives.
-  I saw this quote today on Tony Robbin’s twitter page.

As another day passes and we hear more ‘doom and gloom’ from our TV’s, the internet and such, I believe this is one of those times that we will look back upon as a time where we became more loving, yet strong souls.  Indeed, in our parent’s times, perhaps they referred to times like now as

Make it or Break it Time

We’ve certainly now begun to see (and many of us have begun to experience) the ‘barren soil’ and dying vegetation that has come from ‘irrational exuberance’ and, perhaps, a type of greed and lack of accountability that has characterized our political and economic systems in recent years.

While all of us no doubt have been touched to some degree by these elements, I want to remind you that these are times where it is possible for us to become stronger, especially emotionally and mentally.

Mentally and emotionally, you ask?  “How can I feel more confident when I’ve lost my job and I don’t where my next mortgage payment is going to come from?”

Times like these are the ones that make us stronger, if we choose to reach down inside and find our brilliance.  That’s right…

While I am more liberal than conservative (I really hate both terms), I am also more conservative than liberal (figure that one out)!  What this means is that I tend to agree with those who say we’ve all, as a society, gotten away from cultivating the ‘higher’ aspects of our character.

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