Coming across my desk today are two worth-mentioning posts on the all-so-important practical aspects of living and loving – relationship agreements and estate and tax planning. As lesbian couples become more celebratory of their relationships, they will hunger for this sort of information. I, as always, am ‘thinking ahead’ for you!
Be sure to check both of these resources out BEFORE you check your Myspace, Facebook pages or post on Twitter today:
- Estate and Tax Planning for LGBT’s – great information, just in time for tax season! Thanks to my colleagues over at the Lesbian Dating and Relationships blog for the heads up.
- Jaysays interview of Merle Horowitz’s book on ‘cohabitation agreements’. Thanks to my bud Genia Stevens over at gaywallet.com for this information.
Eat these up! Your relationship (or next relationship) depends on getting a handle on subjects such as these! As Jaysays post title sums all of this up perfectly: “Love is Love, but business is business.” Whether you accept it or not, and whether you ever get married or legalize your relationship in some way or not, when you join your life with another person, business IS part of your relationship. Mark my words.
Traditionally, women didn’t often handle the ‘money’ and ‘decision making’ aspects of their love relationships and most of us, as women, still have that ‘limiting belief’ floating around in our subconsciousnesses. Someone, some may argue it was men, blinded our ancestral sisters to the practical aspects of our love relationships with romantic, ‘happily ever after’ fantasies.
We still believe some of these things, but, we need to stop having our heads in the clouds when it comes to money and love. We CAN ‘live happily ever after’, however, it takes some planning…
Barb Elgin
Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW, Certified Singles Coach, is a lesbian dating and relationship expert and matchmaker.
